Love Tips Where Do You Get Yours

Where do you get yours?

We are all used to hearing love tips from a ton of different sources in our life. Many women have built most of the know-how about relationships and men through love tips given in magazines. Others have taken them from TV, friends, family, and everything in between. At first sight this doesn’t appear to be a big deal. After all, whoever is giving you the advice has your best interests at heart right? They may or they may not, what we do know is that 95% of the advice given by such sources is misguided or just plain wrong. Not only that, but it rarely fits with who we are. If you’ve ever taken advice from someone about your love life and felt like it just didn’t fit with who you are as a person and what you believe, its probably because it was generic advice which didn’t necessarily apply to you.

Who we choose to get our love tips from is more important than most people realise, because it affects our whole love life and the results we get from it! Just as talking to an estate agent in the wrong area can land you with a bunch of houses which aren’t right for you, talking to the wrong sources about your love life will land you with a bunch of guys who are not compatible with you.

Get your love tips from REAL role models:

Its time to start choosing very carefully who we get our love tips from. Role models are key, but make sure they are role models in the right area! Your parents may have been spectacular role models for you in certain areas growing up, such as your career choices, but if their relationship isn’t exactly your ideal for yourself then they may not be your best role models for your own love life. Some of our clients tell us that they have been to see a phycologist at some point in their lives for their love life. Phycologists can tell you a lot about how you think, and why you do the things you do, but does this mean they can give you practical love tips and solutions to your dating problems? Unlikely. Unless that is they have extraordinary abilities in their dating abilities themselves. Does this sound like any phycologist you’ve ever heard of?

The same goes for your friends. Your friends may be in relationships themselves, and all too willing to unload some of their profound dating knowledge onto you. In fact, you may have have one or two particular friends who ram their solutions down your throat every time you come up against a hurdle in your dating life. But look very carefully and assess whether they themselves are people you should be modeling in this area. If the answer is no then you should probably look to get your love tips elsewhere.

We urge you to add up all the dating advice and love tips you’ve been given over the years and then ask yourself this question: “How much has all this advice genuinely helped me?” Most people’s answer is, sadly, “not a lot”. The solution? Hunt out people who have the success you desire in this area, ask their opinions, get into their mentality. At the very least observe them in the environments where they socialise and watch what they do differently to other people. You should even try some of their techniques on for size and see if they fit with you. You may see extraordinary results from the smallest change. Changing is never as difficult as finding out what it is you’re supposed to change. That’s what we specialise in: Taking an objective stance and telling you, with total honesty (something you rarely get from those close friends and family), where you are going wrong; then we give you the tools to change it. So find role models, make friends with them, model their behaviour, and if you fancy taking a trip to the city to see what we can do for you, we’d love to hear from you. Why not see if our love tips can give you the success you’ve been waiting for?

Combating Cabin Fever Five Love Tips For Couples

When winter closes in and you’re closeted with your significant other, your relationship can turn boring, irritating or downright infuriating. But you can turn this stuck-with-each-other situation into an opportunity-a great opportunity to have a breakthrough in your love relationship using just one of these five love tips:

1. Discover each other all over again! Have Ten Minute Listening Sessions where one person gets to talk, free associate, and say whatever is on their minds while the other simply listens with full attention. The listener does not speak. No matter what, use a clock and honor a full ten minute session. Then switch roles. Anything said in that time is sacred and cannot be brought up during an argument! You never will know your partner’s world until you really listen.

2. Do the Miracle Exercise. Each of you write out the answer to the following questions: What would your life be like if a miracle happened and you became fully content and happy with your life? How would you be acting? How would your partner be acting? What else would be different? Read your answers to each other. Then, for the rest of the day, both of you commit to behaving as if the miracle has occurred.

3. Play Sexy Dress Up. Let your fantasies go wild by finding sexy lingerie and other sex play outfits. Dress up and role play being the nurse, doctor, maid, dominatrix, vixen, or sex slave, and create a hot escapade that is entirely different from your normal sexual routine.

4. Be Dessert for Each Other. Get naked, grab the whip cream or chocolate syrup and make yourself into a sumptuous dessert for your partner. Make sure you lather it on in the areas of your body that give you the most pleasure.

5. Play Strip Poker. The loser of the hand takes off an article of clothing, reveals a secret or describes a sexual fantasy. If you go all in and win, you can ask your partner to take off all of his/her clothes at once. But if you lose, well you get the idea. Either way, there are no losers in this game.

You can learn much more about keeping passion and love alive in your relationship in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.